If Everyone Likes You, Then You Might Have a Problem

You have to decide who you are and how you want to act based on your own personality, not because someone else tells you that’s what you need to do in order to make them like you more. I get it; everybody wants to be liked, but if everyone likes you then there’s something seriously wrong with you.

Reasons why you are too nice.

1. People take advantage of you because they know you won’t say no.

2. You’re a pushover and people know it.

3. You always put others before yourself, even when it’s not necessary.

4. People use you because they know you’re a nice person.

5. You never stand up for yourself because you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

6. You have low self-esteem so you go along with what other people think.

7. When someone asks you to do something, your automatic response is yes.

8. You are too scared to say anything mean or disagreeable for fear that someone will get mad at you or abandon you if they find out who the real you is. 9. 10. 11. 12.

What to do when everything goes wrong?

When everything goes wrong, it can feel like the world is against you. But there are things you can do to get back on track. Give yourself time and space to heal from whatever happened. Reach out for help from someone you trust or just speak with your friends about what happened so they can be there for you and tell you that what happened isn’t your fault. Lastly, keep practising self-care by eating well, exercising, and sleeping well.

Stop apologizing

We’ve all been there- someone bumps into us and we reflexively say sorry. But did you do anything wrong? Probably not. So why are you apologizing? It’s time to break the habit of making excuses for everything, of being so eager to please that you start saying yes when you should be saying no. If everyone likes you then it might be time to take a closer look at your life and see what’s going on in there.

Speak up

If you’re the type of person who always tries to please others and put their needs above your own, then you might have a problem. It’s not always a bad thing to be liked by everyone, but it can be detrimental to your own wellbeing. Learning to speak up for yourself is an important skill to have in order to maintain healthy relationships. So if people don’t like that about you or get offended when you speak up, then maybe they weren’t really your friends to begin with.

One common sign that this is happening? When people stop including you in conversations, activities or plans because they don’t want to upset anyone else.

If this sounds like something that has happened to you, then it’s time to set some boundaries with those around you so that they know where the line is drawn.

Say no when needed

It can be difficult to stand up to people and say no, especially if you’re worried about them not liking you. But it’s important to be able to set boundaries and stick to them. If you find yourself always saying yes, even when you don’t want to, then it might be time to start saying no more often. Here are a few tips on how to do it 1) Prepare for the reaction by anticipating what the other person will say or do in response.

2) Remember that no one has the right to make you feel bad or guilty for standing up for yourself.

3) Try using phrases like I’m sorry but I really have to go or I appreciate your offer but I’d rather not. These are polite ways of declining while still being nice.

Do something that scares you every once in a while

It’s easy to get complacent and comfortable in life. But if you never challenge yourself or do anything that scares you, then you’re not really living. So every once in a while, do something that gets your heart racing. It doesn’t have to be skydiving or bungee jumping (although those are definitely options). It could be something as simple as taking a different route to work or speaking up in a meeting. Just do something that makes you feel alive. If everyone likes you all the time, then there is something wrong with the world because we should always strive to grow and become better versions of ourselves.

Cut out the negative people

It’s important to be around positive people who will lift you up and support you. If everyone likes you, then you might have a problem because it could mean that you’re not being true to yourself. It’s okay to be liked by everyone, but it’s also important to be liked by the right people. If you’re constantly surrounded by negative people, then it might be time to cut them out of your life. I’ve been there before, and I know how difficult it can be. It may seem like these people are friends, but they’re actually dragging you down if they keep criticizing everything about you or if they never have anything nice to say about anyone else. Surrounding yourself with negativity is going to bring you down in more ways than one.

Make time for yourself every day

It’s important to make time for yourself every day, even if it’s just for a few minutes. This is because if you’re constantly giving your time and energy to others, you’ll eventually burn out. Plus, taking some time for yourself will help you recharge and be more productive when you’re around others. Think about what you need right now. Is it a quiet time or are you drained? Do you need to take a break or go on an adventure? If the answer is yes then do that!

Be positive about everything and everyone

It’s great to be liked by everyone, but it might not be entirely genuine. If you’re always putting on a happy face and being positive about everything, people might start to wonder if you’re being sincere. Being liked by everyone isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it’s important to make sure that you’re being genuine in your interactions. Be aware of how much time you spend with certain friends. There will always be some friends who just don’t click for whatever reason, so try to limit the amount of time spent with them. Try focusing more on the friends who are there for you when you need them most instead of trying to maintain friendships with those who only want something from you.

Take charge of your life and your decisions.

It’s not always easy to be the one in charge. But if you want to be successful in life, you need to take charge of your life and your decisions. That means being assertive and making things happen. It also means being able to handle criticism and not taking things personally. If everyone likes you, then you might have a problem because it could mean that you’re not challenging yourself enough. So don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and make some waves. Do things differently than other people are doing them. Take risks, stand up for what you believe in, do what you love and let go of what doesn’t work for you. And remember that the only person who is going to limit how far you can go is yourself!

Live your life not others’ lives.

So often we get caught up in what other people think of us. We want everyone to like us and we go to great lengths to make that happen. But at what cost? If you’re constantly living your life based on others’ approval, then you’re not really living your own life. You’re living the life that you think others want you to live. And that’s not really living at all. That’s just making sure that no one has anything bad to say about you. I’m not saying it’s wrong to want people to like you. It’s natural for human beings to desire acceptance from their peers; but don’t forget who you are and why those people matter so much.

The last thing we need is an identity crisis because we can’t figure out who we are anymore or because we don’t know how to satisfy both sets of expectations. Be yourself and let the chips fall where they may!